The Quest for Authentic Manhood

Making the pursuit of authentic manhood a lifelong priority

Join the Journey To Authentic Manhood

The Quest for Authentic Manhood provides men with an encouraging process that teaches them how to live lives of authentic manhood as modeled by Jesus Christ and directed by the Word of God.

The Quest for Authentic Manhood  was developed by Robert Lewis over a number of years as he sought to connect with and challenge the men of his church.

Now over 20 years later, more than 1,400 men attend his weekly Men’s Fraternity meetings at six in the morning.

Men’s Fraternity is being used by pastors and church leaders all over the world to energize the men of their churches and to connect with men in their communities.


Welcome to the Quest

Welcome to The Quest for Authentic Manhood! The journey on which you are about to embark has energized and excited men from all over the world. Many have commented that these messages have blessed them with a new sense of their own masculine identity, giving them a personal manhood vision, as well as insight into what God had in mind when He first brought man into the world.

The Quest for Authentic Manhood sets out to answer some questions that are universal to men.

  • What makes a man a man? A real man?
  • How does one become a man?
  • Is there a moment when it happens?
  • What is it that holds men back from their true masculine destiny?
  • How should authentic manhood express itself today?

Those are just some of the questions The Quest for Authentic Manhood will answer for you in specific ways that you, as a man, can get your arms around practically.

In the sessions we will have together, we will closely examine our development as men, the wounds which often hold men back, and how those wounds can be healed. We will discover the importance of male mentors for encouragement, the power of Dad, raising healthy sons and daughters, and the role of a man in marriage. Other topics we will address include the biblical definition of manhood, the different seasons of a man’s life, and how one “becomes a man!”

This journey is not for the faint of heart. It’s a steep climb at times. You will need discipline and teammates in the process. It will be challenging, soul-searching, and eye-opening. But by the end—as so many have experienced before you—you, too, will find a clearer, richer, and nobler masculinity for yourself. That’s a promise.

5 Presuppositions of Our Manhood Journey

  1. Manhood is in a state of confusion.
  2. Confused men create major problems.
  3. Confused men settle for less.
  4. There is no lofty vision of manhood today that is compelling to men.
  5. The Bible has helpful insights to all of the above.


Like never before, our world needs men. Real men. Authentic men. Men, like Jesus, who possess life-giving spirits and righteous, warrior hearts. Are you ready? If so, tighten up those laces on your hiking boots and let’s begin our journey.





All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work (2 Timothy 3:16-17, NIV).


    Twenty-four Sessions

    1. At the Starting Line: Five Manhood Promises
    2. The Four Faces of Manhood
    3. The First Step to Authentic Manhood: Looking Back
    4. The Second Step to Authentic Manhood: “Unpacking
    5. Remembering Dad
    6. Facing the Father Wound
    7. he Overly-Bonded with Mother Wound
    8. Making a Healthy Break with Mom
    9. The All Alone Wound
    10. Three Cheers for Mentors!
    11. The Wounded Heart
    12. Implications of the Heart Wound
    13. The Good News Solution to the Heart Wound
    14. “Saddle Up!” for the Second Half
    15. Genesis and Manhood, Part 1
    16. Genesis and Manhood, Part 2
    17. A Biblical Definition of Manhood, Part 1
    18. A Biblical Definition of Manhood, Part 2
    19. A Man and His Wife, Part 1
    20. A Man and His Wife, Part 2
    21. 25 Ways to Be a Servant-Leader
    22. Fathers and Sons
    23. Fathers and Daughters
    24. A Man and His Life Journey


     Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong. Do everything in love (1 Corinthians 16:13-14, NIV). 

    The Quest for Authentic is for men only. We meet every Monday night at Inside Out Recovery from 7:00 to 8:30 pm.


    Please park on the East side (Right side) of the building around back. Enter through the gate in the middle of the chain link fence and our meeting is through the double doors to the left. We start promptly at 7:00 pm.